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Flight or Fight (Part 2)
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In part I, we identified some reasons why we are not keen on stepping out of our comfort zone even when the conditions are ripe for change.

Here we address, different ways of rising to the occasion, which in many cases may entail confronting or meeting the challenges and expectations placed in our path.

Is it Time Yet? –  – do you no longer enjoy doing your job? is the job no longer challenging? is there no more room for growth? are you bored or miserable?

First, acknowledge that the time has come for the change to be made, which could be to move on from your current position.  Moving to a different environment may be your most pivotal time of growth in your career.  However, in order to make strides in that respect, the next step is critical: identifying your worst fears and determining how to overcome it.

The fear of rejection comes in different forms:

  • self-condemnation – I am not good enough;
  • recalling all the negative thoughts or statements you have had or heard while completely discounting your strengths;
  • convincing yourself you are not convinced the grass is greener on the other side and of course
  •  there is “the devil you know”…mindset.

 Change is Inevitable – So rather than imagine the worst, hope for the best and prepare for the worst.  So (then) what is next ?  Be strategic and do not work blindly against your fear but identify –

  • 1) What it is that you want to pursue,
  • 2) what is that vision you want to achieve, and
  • 3) what is the end objective you want to realize; then use that to fuel you in your growth.

 Bottom line, have a plan.


So you got over the hump of almost talking yourself out of attending the networking event on a Wednesday evening after a long and trying day at work.  In spite of your best efforts, the rule of 3 did not work and to top it off, there were no familiar faces at the event so you ended up with “no results”

What is your Plan B and Plan C? What are the baby steps to take where the whole professional networking may be a bit too much too soon?

1)Open ended networking –networking does not always have to be in a professional setting.  It may be easier to make those connections while participating in a group activity in a relaxed environment

  • Attend “non-professional networking” activities hosted by a group that interests you –  the local gym, Book Club, Running group, Local library, Habitat for Humanity.
  • Volunteer time on projects, children’s school field trips, PTA,  or other Event organizing committees.

Let your friends or contacts who are already members of these organizations or groups know to keep you posted on any upcoming events.  Better yet, ask if they are ok with you accompanying them as a guest to these events. It is a great opportunity to meet others in the group through your contact.  Such an opportunity is even better and less nerve wracking because you can try something new and better yet with a familiar face to to guide you through the experience.

2) Seek mentors – one in which both mentor and mentee can nurture the relationship.

3) Handling our Fears – It is ok to feel vulnerable and to ask for help.  A positive mindset is key.

4) Listen more than your speak – Get a feel for if this is a soft-sell or direct in your face kind of individual.

Be generous with assisting others even if there is nothing in it for you – “The currency of real networking is not greed but generosity.” Keith Ferrazzi”.

If someone happens to mention a need for a handyman, connect them to one you know and it does not necessarily mean it will work out, however, people never forget.

A person who Never made a Mistake

never Tried anything New

– Albert Einstein



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