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3 questions to ask before providing valuable feedback


What would I say? How would I say what I liked or did not like?  Would it be insensitive to tell it like it was?

My fingers beat my brain to it and by the time it dawned on me the confirmation that email had been sent had popped up on my screen.  My euphoria was short-lived and what I was feeling at that point in time was nothing short of raw consternation.

Here, I was battling a deluge of emotions and also attempting to manage the anxiety this simple email request had inflicted on me.  I was quickly transported back to the white knuckle moments waiting on a response from the bank to my offer and dreading the call from the agent after two rejections on previous offers.  The difference with the third offer was I had found a home I wanted needed.  I had no doubt in my mind, I did not have it in me to stomach another rejection and resume the search online as well as traveling from one end of town to the other to view properties.    Continue reading “3 questions to ask before providing valuable feedback”

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Kemelayefa’s Crisis -Lets Talk

“I am done.  I can’t do this anymore.”

Kem blurted out, clutching his head between his palms, his anguished expression partially visible to Tam.

“My Guy! what’s the problem?”

“It’s Rio.”

“and what about her?  I thought you are trying to work things out with Sammie?”

“Arrghhhh!! yes that was…is still my plan but…”

Kem had met up with Tam .  He wanted Tam’s opinion on some t-shirt mockups for Kanyi’s  youth camp group taking place in a few months.

Tam which was short for Tambari placed his glass down on the wooden slab table, wiping off the droplets from his sweating glass with a napkin.


“What are you talking about Kemelayefa?”

Kem slowly raised his head.

What? Tam asked astonished by how quickly Kem switched from the  bewildering facial expression to a relaxed countenance.

“Oh its nothing!”

Tam sounded like his father, the way he pronounced his full name.  Kem short for Kemelayefa which means nothing is greater than a human being, was named after his Ijaw maternal grandfather.

 Tam continued ” I thought that the business with Rio ended when you made the decision to work things out with Sammie?”

Kem was quiet.  Tambari knew his friend all too well, so his non responsiveness was even more disquieting.

Continue reading “Kemelayefa’s Crisis -Lets Talk”

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Nostalgia – Photo Challenge



On a beautiful day as this, with the rays of the sun traveling down our backs, the smells from the harbor wafting in the background,  the memories flooded back with such an inexplicable intensity.

Rearing its head at an organic pace was that intimate, sentimental yearning for a return to a time past.

In a different time, on a different day, this would be the simplest request – the drive down that hilly thoroughfare in that ride, both of which are no more.

Ever wonder about these remnants and “What should have or maybe could have” been here in the Rocks, or not?

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Know the difference(s) before you provide your next feedback; Customer Reviews versus Testimonials.

The difference between Customer Reviews and Testimonials

Reviews are evaluations of products or services usually written by clients or customers on social media sites  like Amazon, Better Business Bureau, Yelp, TripAdvisor and OpenTable to name a few.

These reviews could be provide either positive or negative feedback and allow the vendor or merchant to respond to the feedback provided by the customer on product pages, search engines or a separate review website.


Testimonials serve as a way of showing off how others have benefited from your product or service.  Unlike customer reviews it is not conversational which means the provider does not have the opportunity to respond to the feedback provided.  It is a powerful tool for building trust and encouraging potential buyers to take action.

Testimonials are meant to demonstrate success and so the more specific the testimonials with regard to the tangible impact of the services or product provided and the client’s overall experience, the more effective it is.

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Surrender All of it- The Conclusion

Kanyi caught a smile creeping up on him as he recalled growing up, some of the things his parents did for each other.  He had observed how the principle of surrender to God and to each other had played out in his parents’ 43 years of marriage.

Tenderness, a forgiving spirit, trust, vulnerability and mutual respect were core ingredients of their relationship.  Even after all these years, the way they strived to be of service to each other in the simple and big things, still amazed him.

As simple as they made it seem, he always marveled at the depth and richness of their friendship; something he was beginning to appreciate and desire more as he got older.

Earlier on in the year, following his breakup with Minna, there had been a growing uneasiness that was gnawing away at his spirit.  Then something happened at his church and the message was clear: he had to surrender it all.

On that particular Sunday, the pastor was teaching a sermon based off of scripture in Deuteronomy 11:12.

It was about God’s providence and His promise to have His eyes continually on our needs from the beginning of the year to its end. The only condition required was that as Christ followers to surrender their will to a loving Father who only desires the best for his children.

He walked out of service that day with a renewed desire to surrender his struggles which stemmed from ‘free fall’ fear, doubt, stubbornness and even pride.

Sunday Brunch and then some 

As they polished off what was left of their brunch at Ah-Wholein de Wall, Horace Silver’s “Song for my Father” was also winding down.  Judging by Kanyi’s crumb free plate, it appeared to Kene, the sweet potato pancakes and the mango jicama salad with cilantro and lime dressing were a big hit.

On the drive back to pick up Kene’s car, a Christian radio show came on and the topic was pornography and erotica in the Christian’s life.  Kanyi reached over with his right hand for the radio station knob. Continue reading “Surrender All of it- The Conclusion”

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Photo Challenge – Mirror

…show us a mirror. You can take this photo challenge literally, and find reflections in mirrors, or in the stillness of a natural body of water. Live in an urban area? Some skyscrapers are beautifully reflective of the cityscape around them. Or, use this challenge to take a photo of yourself in the mirror. Self-documentation is important, especially for those of us who are usually behind the lens


What type of emotions or thoughts does this composition evoke?

Classic car from the 50’sand 60’s on the streets of a 21st century commercial strip.  Not lost on the viewer is the reflection of a modern day sports utility vehicle (SUV) , as much as can fit into the side mirror’s real estate of a stationary vehicle.

In my mind’s eye, it’s a medley.  My curiosity is bubbling over and I can’t help but engage in my one man conversation with self.  I am curious about the different elements of the composition.

What is real and what is simulated?

Is it all smoke and mirrors?  “Smoke and mirrors” and by the way… what does that even mean?

In English language, it is used as a metaphor for describing deception and confusion.

In computer programming , it is used to describe a program or functionality that does not yet exist, but appears as though it does.

In photography, it is used to describe a technique of simulating certain conditions using different props.

In the final analysis, these are not props. This is all in living color!

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How to take your feedback from mediocre to phenomenal!

I came across a visual depiction with accompanying text on a social media platform of this courier service provider.  On its face, it seemed so simple but what was even more remarkable was the attention to detail in the description of this simple concept of a form of transportation unique to certain parts of the world.

The content connected with me in such enigmatic proportions that it immediately got me thinking of the most appropriate word(s) to compliment the content creator.  One thing was clear, this called for more than a quick and perfunctory “Job well done” Continue reading “How to take your feedback from mediocre to phenomenal!”